Perfect or Healthy Balance?

Finding the right balance isn't always easy.  There is me-time w/God, time with family, time for work, time for ministry/church, time for rest & relaxation, etc... However what order does it go in?  What percentage of time goes to what part of life?  Is there a perfect formula to get the equation to balance perfectly?  I don't know!  It might not be a perfect balance, but if a healthy balance is not set up at an early stage especially when ministry is involved, it could prove costly in the long run.

I have to keep priorities in order:
My God
My Family
My Calling

It takes time, effort, and sacrifice in planting a new church.  It takes time, effort, and sacrifice in raising a family.  It takes time, effort, and sacrifice in developing a relationship with Christ.  (Oops, I didn't write that in the "right order".)  Sometimes we have to say "NO" to certain things to keep a healthy balance.  Sometimes we say "NO" too much and create an unhealthy balance.  What helps me is the power of a good team at home and in ministry.

There is no formula to get a perfect balance. 
There is a formula to get a healthy balance ... God, Family, Calling.

Enjoy The Ride,

Cecil

12 Killers of Good Leadership

I came across this article today which was authored by Ron Edmondson. Its a great read on good leadership!

"I know numerous leaders with great potential… They have all the appearance of being a good leader… But they lack one thing…or two… There are a few killers of good leadership… Any one of these can squelch good leadership… It’s like a wrecking ball of potential… It’s not that they can’t lead, but to continue to grow as a leader…to be successful at a higher level or for the long-term…they must address these issues.

Here are 12 killers of good leadership:

Defensiveness – Good leaders don’t wear their feelings on their shoulders. They know other’s opinions matter and aren’t afraid to be challenged.

Jealousy – A good leader enjoys watching others on the team excel.

Revenge – The leader that succeeds for the long term must be forgiving and knows that “getting even” only comes back to harm them and the organization.

Fearfulness – The good leader remains committed when no one else is and must take risks no one else will. Others will follow. That’s what leaders do.

Favoritism - Good leaders don’t have favorites on the team. They reward for results not partiality.

Ungratefulness - Good leaders value people, knowing they cannot attain success without others.

Small-mindedness – Good leaders think bigger than today. They are dreamers and idea people.

Pridefulness - Pride comes before the fall. Good leaders remain humbled by the position of authority entrusted to them.

Rigidity - There are some things to be rigid about, such as values and vision, but for most issues, the leader must be open to change. Good leaders welcome new ideas, realizing that most everything can be improved.

Laziness – One can’t be a good leader and not be willing to work hard. In fact, the leader should be willing to be the hardest worker on the team.

Unresponsiveness – Good leaders don’t lead from behind closed doors. They are responsive to the needs and desires of those they attempt to lead. They respond to concerns and questions. They collaborate more than control. Leaders who close themselves off from those they lead will limit the places where others will follow.

Dishonesty – Since character counts highest, a good leader must be above reproach. When a leader fails, he or she must admit their mistake and work towards restoration.

A leader may struggle with one or more of these, but the goal should be to lead “killer-free.”
Leader, be honest, which of these wrecking balls do you struggle with most?

What would you add to my list? Can you think of any other killers of good leadership?"

Enjoy The Ride,

Cecil

Marriage Is It Worth It?

RSVP here: https://www.facebook.com/#!/event.php?eid=275512409136408

*Are you at that age where your aunt is giving you those looks and bugging you with 'those questions'?
*Do you honestly care about Marriage or even finding a "Life Partner"?
*Why should I get married, all these girls/guys are C for crazy!
*I'm married....but i definitely didn't sign up for this!!!!
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A few random PK's in NYC thought it would be a GRAND idea if a few curious young adults & married couples came together this coming Monday (Columbus Day) to find some Answers/Solutions to these questions that everyone is thinking about but NOBODY has the guts to Ask.

Rev. C.V. Abraham, will be answering these & other relevant questions and sharing Biblical insight on relationships, marriage, & everything in between. Rev. C.V. Abraham is a Pastor and a Counselor at the Global Family Welfare Center. He holds a M.S. in Psychology and has served as an Academic Director, Principal, and Psychological Counselor at various International institutions.

This event is open to Young Adults & Married Couples. Snacks will be provided. Bring a notebook/pen/Bible.

This event is brought to you by Random PK's in NYC: Anita Thomas, Anncy Thomas, Sherin Abraham, Pr. Cecil Mathew, Lisa Itty, Sharon Titus, Burli Johnson, Sharon Jacob, & James Thomas.

Enjoy The Ride,

Cecil